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Temporary Grief, and Letting Go!
March 6, 2008, 4:52 pm
Filed under: Grief, Personal Development

In the comment section of the last personal development post, I mentioned that when I wrote the post on Sunday and pulled up that image, the image did not particularly strike me as anything special. It was kind of a “ho-hum, so what?” reaction. Yet from experience, I know that I better just put it out there, and wait a couple of days. Of course, experience proved correct in this case, also.

After the post was written, I did not think too much about it, but my mind was obviously chewing on it in the attempt to solve the riddle as it applied to myself, and my life. The day before I published it, the understanding of what the problem was came around, and hit me full force. It was so unexpected, and I couldn’t imagine that this was holding me back, but I was wrong. In a split hour I saw that thread back in time, and it proved to be more major than I could have imagined. Not bad for an hour’s mind-rambling, eh?

There are still aspects that I am trying to figure out, so it would be hopeless of me to try to explain it. This is because I am so trained in working with these types of processes that I know that even though I think I know today, tomorrow may bring that last piece of the puzzle, and the entirety of the larger picture may dramatically change.

I almost posted and shared my reaction while it was at its deepest point, but I felt resistance to that thought. I know that when I feel this, I should wait. I am glad that I waited, for otherwise I would have missed an important message to share. They are things that I know, but sometimes when we know things so well, we forget to mention them.

The most important thing I would like to share about such experiences is the reaction phase of it. It is a known phenomenon that the body reacts to these processes. The bottom line is that it is a reaction to change. I wrote about it in my book, and the physical symptoms are much like the ones we observe and find in, Crises Theory. However, not all change is a crises. Far from it. We tend to change a variety of things throughout a lifetime. Although our minds may differentiate, our bodies don’t. Our body simply reacts.

We see this all of the time when people begin a development process in Reiki. People report sleep-patterns temporarily changing or becoming disturbed. People report running to the loo more frequently. Their appetite may be affected. They experience mood-swings, melancholy, or old habits they previously changed, surface and cause cravings once again. The reason why we don’t often recognize these reactions, is because it never occurs to us to see the correlation to something that is changing. Why? Because, nothing has immediately changed in our physical environment, so we are not visibly observing it. It is something that is happening inside of us.

As we understand something important, we often realize that we need to let it go. We can more clearly see that it is not helping us in feeling more well-being. Well-being is actually what people strive for, it’s just that we use different words to describe the preferences of the levels of our well-being that have stagnated. So, as we understand, some emotion is usually tied to it. As we simply release the emotion in the decision that we want to do better by ourselves, something else happens. This something may feel OK, and this something may be that we unexpectedly feel a sort of emptiness at the release. We don’t expect this to come, because our minds tell us that it should feel good. A feeling of emptiness at releasing or changing habit just means that we are trying to figure out how to replace it, or fill it, if you will.

At this point old habits long gone may show up again. If this should happen, and it does not always happen, stop a minute and think about it. If we do this we can go back and understand in how many ways we have attempted to muffle ourselves. Let me exemplify this by giving a personal example. When I was a kid and life became stressed or troubled, I would bury my head in books. Not the occassional fun read. I would literally hide for days on end with my nose in a book. It was an escape, and it was because I was young and incapable of finding the words for what I was feeling, and even if I had been able to verbalize them, there was not really anyone I could have talked to about them. Well, there was, but I imagined that there wasn’t as I was actually afraid of feeling silly myself. So, the option was to reduce my stress by engaging in something else, and whereby the end resulted in a feeling resembling more like, “well-being”. It really is as simple as that. At some level we all know of these things.

I wrote in the last post that the images can also show us a positive way out toward something better. The point being to fill the emptiness with new positives, rather than resort to old outer habits that actually end up sabotaging our well-being. This is why it is so inspiring to collaborate with the image interpretations of others. Floog and Jane Turley really sparked that light of inspiration in my particular experience. Suddenly, the solution was based upon pure beautiful simplicity, and so easy to practice. For me it became important right here and now, to remember that the glass is always half-full. It was the reminder that I needed at several levels. So, thank you all. I also know something else, and that is that one person’s process triggers a process in the next person, and so on, and so on. In this way, we accomplish more together as a whole than we accomplish by our lonesome.

Any thoughts?

P.S. I’m publishing a post this evening about a review of a great book. No, I did not resort to the old habit of yesteryear. It is entirely coincidental that these posts ended up back to back. So, don’t go getting suspicious of me… Just sayin’.